Welcome back to Ella Writes! I want to start posting a blog each week with a new quote and hopefully encourage you with the quotes I share!
Today's quote is "Just because it's taking time doesn't mean it's not happening."
I was scrolling on Instagram today, as one does, and I follow this account called Chosen and Free Co. that always posts really good posts that have reminders I always need to read.
Today I came across a post, and one thing it said was, "Yes, that one door closed...but the next key God gives you could open up an entire house."
I love this so much because I always hear people talking about closed doors, and God being in charge of what doors need to be closed. I think it's so easy for us to look at the fictional hallway of things we want in life that's standing right in front of us. It's easy for us to open whatever doors in that hallway we want to without thinking of where they might lead us.
Throughout high school, I was in love with this guy. I thought he was the one, and I thought there would be no one else that could replace him.
In my mind, he was everything.
And I feel like I either write about this or talk about it a lot, and I think that's because it's part of my story. What I learned from my feelings for this guy taught me a really big lesson I needed to learn. And it took several years for me to understand the whole picture and finally close the door he was in.
Everyone is always talking about dating and relationships or waiting seasons. T.V. shows and movies always have a love triangle or some type of romance.
It's fun, right? Seeing a man and woman fall in love is fun and cool.
But one thing romance movies or shows never have is a single girl or a single guy as the main character. (At least, as far as I know). The MC always ends up with someone. It's inevitable because it's part of the story.
But what if you're not part of that scripted story?
What if you're not an actor in a movie, and you're a real person living on Earth right now?
What if you can't just magically walk into a classroom and fall in love with the guy who sits in front of you and have him fall in love back? In fact, what if he doesn't like you back at all?
Well, I get it more than I want to, and I know I'm not the only one.
Because that guy I could not forget about in high school...well...he didn't feel the same. At all. And it took so long for me to get over the fact that he wasn't the one.
But, the moment high school ended, my feelings changed. Then he got a girlfriend, and now I never want to see him again.
It's almost crazy how you can care so much about a person for such a long time, and in the blink of an eye you never see them again, and you never hear from them.
Honestly, I'm glad to be closing that door of my life, and I've learned so so much from the past couple of years.
What I learned:
I was idolizing a relationship that was never going to happen.
Deep down I knew that we were never going to be a thing. I've always known that. But it was the idea of having a crush that kept me going back to try to open that door.
I'm pretty sure we've all had experience with being delusional, and just wanting someone to like you. It's truly so easy to want a relationship with someone who cares a lot about you.
However, the person you're looking for is going to find you no matter what. You don't have to search so hard. God has a plan for you and He knows that you want someone you can call the love of your life one day.
I believe dating apps aren't always going to work. And I don't think we should always be so adamant on finding someone every second of every day. Chances are, you're searching for someone that is going to end up hurting you. Or, someone who is going to end up breaking up with you. (And this is just my opinion.) But God is the only one who knows the answer to the question. The BIG question. "Who am I going to marry, and when am I finally going to find that person?"
I can tell you right now you're going to find that person when it's time.
So slow down a little bit. Don't rush things.
He/she will find you, and it's going to be in God's timing, not yours. Because God is the only one who knows how to give you someone who will heal your heart and not continue to break it.
Maybe I cared about him, but he was never going to care about me.
The reality is, you can't make someone love you. After all, that's not true love.
Someone has to feel the same way as you and care about you equally.
That's why it's sometimes scary to have a crush. You never know when you're going to get rejected. So you avoid letting that person know how you feel because you don't want to get rejected.
I get it. I really get it.
So keep this in mind when you think you've found the one. You never have to prove yourself to someone to make them love you. You never have to change yourself for someone to love you. Your soulmate will love you for who you are, not who you're trying to be.
Just be yourself. The right person will come along.
God has someone so much better for me out there right now.
While I'm falling in love with this guy who doesn't care about me, God is preparing a guy who does care about me.
And even though I don't know when I'm going to meet him, that's okay. It's not a bad thing to be single. It's a bad thing to waste your singleness.
I don't want to be the girl who was pining for men that didn't care just because I thought they were the one. I want to be the girl that surrenders my whole love life to Jesus so I can focus on His plan for me while I wait for Him to introduce me to the guy He has for me.
It's so easy for me to overthink things, and I've learned that I hate overthinking things. I especially hate falling in love and being rejected.
I know the answer to curing that though. And once I fully surrender, I can finally be free.
You don't have to be weighed down by the thought of a relationship. Or asking yourself if he likes you. Or waiting for signs that he likes you. (Or she).
If he/she likes you, they'll let you know.
Right now, all you need to do is be still.
That brings me back to the quote. "Just because it's taking time doesn't mean it's not happening."
Stop trying to unlock the door in your fictional hallway that isn't ready to be opened. Stop settling for someone who could care less about you. And remember that God will always love you more than any human could.
Let Him show you what He has for you before you step ahead and fall into something you're not ready for. Be patient. God's timing is the best timing you could ever ask for. Trust me. ~Ella
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